I didn’t even flinch when I drove behind a red Honda Accord today. I was so happy and grateful that I felt only peace at the sight of the car.
You see, I once had a business associate who drove a red Honda Accord. When the business relationship ended amid painful misunderstandings, I transferred my pain to red Honda Accords. Each time I’d see a red Accord, my body would flinch and my mind would be flooded with painful memories of the relationship.
As a long-time spirituality student and teacher, I know the importance of forgiveness. A Course in Miracles says, “There can be no form of suffering that fails to hide an unforgiving thought. Nor can there be a form of pain which forgiveness cannot heal.”
I’d done a lot of forgiveness work through my life, and had released toxic anger in most of my relationships. All except the person who drove the red Accord, which my body would remind me of each time I’d see one of these cars. Every time I’d see an Accord, I’d feel tense and upset and all of the painful memories would come flooding back.
How DO you forgive seemingly unforgivable actions? Is it possible to completely forgive someone who’s smashed your heart into little tiny bits?
According to A Course in Miracles and the angels, the answer is: “Yes!” Not only can we forgive everyone (including ourselves), but we MUST forgive everyone if we’re to find peace, health, and happiness. Those who don’t forgive keep attracting the same types of painful relationships over and over.
When Gary Renard asked me to read the part of Pursah, the ascended master, for his audiobook version of The Disappearance of the Universe, I asked him why he chose me. “I didn’t,” he replied. “Pursah herself told me to ask you.”
I loved reading Pursah’s story of how she attained enlightenment through forgiveness. Pursah had been a university professor. When Pursah flunked a student, he retaliated by filing a false sexual harassment claim against her. The student won, and Pursah lost her reputation and job.
By studying A Course in Miracles, Pursah was able to completely forgive the student and her other persecutors. At the end of her life, she learned that her reincarnation cycle was broken by her complete forgiveness of everyone. Through complete forgiveness, she attained enlightenment.
When our recording engineer discovered that one hour of our audiobook session was unrecorded, I knew that this was a blessing in disguise. Sure enough, when we went back into the studio several months later, the part that was missing was Pursah’s story of forgiveness. The universe wanted to make sure that I read the part twice so I truly understood it.
That night I went home and fervently asked my angels to help me to release and forgive the person with the red Accord. I realized that I didn’t need to do anything but be WILLING to forgive. God and the angels would do everything else once I was willing to release old toxic anger.
I woke up with calmness in my heart, and the knowledge that I’d done the release during my sleep. Now when I see red Honda Accords, my peaceful reaction tells me that I was able to completely forgive the person, myself, and the situation.
I now see the blessings that this relationship and the forgiveness work has brought into my life. I send love to the person for the gifts that I gained from the experience.
What is YOUR personal red Honda Accord which tells you that you still have more layers to release? Is it hearing someone’s name? Seeing a person who reminds you of someone from your past? These signs are all blessings in disguise, as they give direct biofeedback about letting go of old toxins. If we still get triggered, it is a sign that more forgiveness work is needed.
God and the angels will help you to release old resentments if you will ask. Even if you are only partially ready to forgive, this is enough of a heart opening for a healing to occur.
You can accelerate the healing process by sending blessings to anyone who has hurt you. Love the hell out that person by sending them love!
In addition, look for the hidden gifts and blessings that have come to you as a result of the relationship. By acknowledging the gifts, we replace anger with gratitude.
Complete forgiveness was the lesson that Jesus taught by example when he was able to forgive those who committed the ultimate act of aggression.
Forgiveness does not mean condoning the actions of another. It means that you are no longer willing to carry the painful and toxic anger within your body and mind. It is your decision to be free. In this sense, the people who have hurt us are our greatest spiritual teachers.
The angels say: You don’t need to worry about how to act around people who have hurt you. Through the miracle of love and forgiveness, your relationship with them will be completely turned around and healed. Or through the law of attraction, the relationship will fall away out of your life. Let go and enjoy your relationships and know that love always floats to the surface in every situation and heaviness always sinks. Cling to love as your preserver of both love and life.”