Do you want a Play Piercing Class ?

I recently corresponded with XRAY AIMS, a well respected BDSM play piercer in the Boston area, in regards to organizing a small introductory workshop. The workshop would be a one hour of talk/demonstration with worksheets. And one hour of hands-on coached piercing.

"The way I teach I unpack my gear and explain everything as if I'm walking in to have a scene with someone."

He charges $250 for 2.5hour session with limit of 18people.

Final cost would vary on actual number of people and cost of space. All piercing supplies are included in the admission cost.

I will do all the legwork of organizing this class if at least 10 people respond with strong interest ! Post your responses here or email me at shibarismurf@gmail dot com
- Dmitri

Services for Gabe

"I love you! You're beautiful people and you're all so important to me, and I love you all!" -Gabriel Feld, every time.

Obituary to run Monday and Tuesday in the Boston Globe:
GABRIEL FELD
04/26/2009

Gabriel Feld, age 24 of Jamaica Plain formerly of Brookline, On April 24, 2009. Dear son of Phyllis and Gerald Feld of Newton and Gloucester .Devoted brother of Jonah Feld. Dear grandson of Ida Belsky and the late Max and Anne Feld and the late Max .

Graveside services at Sharon Memorial Park 41 Dedham St. Sharon on Tuesday April 28, 2009 at 1:45 pm.

Following services a memorial observance will be held at the home of Phyllis and Gerald Feld 173 Oak St. (Apt. G04W ) Newton until 9:00 Pm Tuesday and Wednesday 1-4 pm and 6-9 pm.

In lieu of flowers remembrances may be made to Gabriel Feld Memorial Scholarship at The Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health 57 Interlaken Rd, Stockbridge, MA. 01262

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Vanessa got in touch with Gabe's brother to find out this info as well. He wrote to her - and to us - in part as follows:

"Services will be held at Sharon Memorial Park, 120 Canton Street, Sharon, MA, 02067, this Tuesday at 1:45 pm.

My parents will be having people over after the funeral until 9pm on Tuesday, and then Wednesday from 1-4 and 6-9 on Wednesday for anyone who would like to stop by. Their address is 173 Oak Street, Unit G04W, Newton, MA, 02464 (walk around the right side of the building to the back and you'll see their unit on the ground floor).

An obituary will be in The Globe tomorrow and Tuesday.

I got in touch with Lea Alford and Everett Chesley who are part of the Yoga community, but please pass this along to anyone and everyone you like. It will mean so much, especially to my parents, to know how much people care. I hope you can make it."

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Please spread the word about the services. Repost it to Tribe, to your LJ. Email it to people. CALL YOUR FRIENDS, particularly the ones who don't check networking sites or email often. Offer them all this chance to say goodbye.

Thanks especially to Bonnie, Logan, Rachel, Mike, and Vanessa for creating spaces for people to gather and support each other.

Website is finished !!!

shibarismurf.com
I finally finished the website, moved it to my own server and its finally up and running the way I wanted it to ! Check it out, let me know what you think.

Best minds of russia

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While the rest of the world thinks of how to get oil, my people use build illegal pipelines... country of friggin engineers...

Live with my girlfriend !!!

x-posted for nicole from here: people.tribe.net/99f22530-...ea11a/blog


Come live with me!
Thu, February 26, 2009 - 4:29 AM
One of my roommates unfortunately had to move out so my other roommie and I are looking to fill the space in our freak-friendly household, most hopefully with a friend or a friend of a friend, or some such thing.

Available March 1 or April 1
$650 mo (Heat + Hot water included), we pay Electric and Internet
Cambridge, Central Square area (near corner of Broadway and Norfolk Street)

The rest stolen from Jack’s ad for the room (i've been a slow-ass about posting):

The available room is huge (the huge-ness is actual… this was originally the living room before we jumbled rooms around) with two large windows, medium sized closet, and hearth (filled in) with mantle. Dwelling has some rough edges, but for the price, you can't beat the location. We have the top two floors of one side of the house, with a neighbor under us and the landlords occupying the other half of the building. Dishwasher. OK to bring a window unit a/c.

Apartment is 5-10 minute walk from both Inman and Central, putting it close to the red line, shops, grocery stores. Laundry, dry cleaner, park, and convenience store 1 block away; two organic grocery stores within 2 blocks.

Cats okay if well-behaved (we have two already). We're two late twenties/early thirties artist types (guy + girl, but not a couple); we both work 9-5. We're both pretty laid back and like to have fun, but we're not throwing parties every night of the week, either.

Available for 3/1 or 4/1. Lease runs to 8/31; we're looking for someone to finish it out with us (and possibly stay for the following year, if things work out for all parties concerned).


Send Nicole a message or email if you or someone you know might be interested.
- Dmitri

Canon Optics for SALE

I just got a Nikon DSLR and now wish to sell my Canon optics. Please click on the link for the actual listing. Thank you.

shibarismurf.livejournal.com/2538.html

off tribe

Sooooo, I decided that is time for me to consider other options besides tribe.
You can find me on Facebook here: www.new.facebook.com/home.php
You can read my blog here: shibarismurf.livejournal.com/
You can see my website here (getting updated at least once a week or more): sites.google.com/site/shibarismurfart/

I will still be checking tribe regularly to see what you peeps are up to, but outside of that I shall be quiet till tribe stops being sooo damn funky and gets with the times.

Do You Make These 7 Mistakes When Trying to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution?

Original Article: www.positivityblog.com/index....lution/


Do You Make These 7 Mistakes When Trying to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution?
Published by Henrik Edberg January 5th, 2009 in Health, Personal Development and Success.

Do You Make These 7 Mistakes When Trying to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution?
Image by Evil Erin (license).

”Yesterday, everybody smoked his last cigar, took his last drink and swore his last oath. Today, we are a pious and exemplary community. Thirty days from now, we shall have cast our reformation to the winds and gone to cutting our ancient shortcomings considerably shorter than ever.”
Mark Twain

Mark Twain was right about the problem with the New Year’s Resolutions. Most of them are forgotten or abandoned and then we are on the old trampled and familiar paths a month later. But how can we avoid it and actually make lasting changes in 2009?

Here are seven common mistakes when trying to keep New Year’s resolutions. And some thoughts on how you can solve each of those problems.

1. You don’t really want it that much.

It’s easy to tipsily declare your New Year’s resolution for 2009 when you got a glass of champagne in your hand. But do actually want it?

Maybe you don’t really want it that much. But the world around seems to want it. This doesn’t mean that you can’t achieve it. But it might be better to focus on what YOU really want. Both to steer your life in the direction you yourself want and to create positive internal motivation instead of external pressure you feel you should live up to.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t use “looking good at the beach” as one motivation to get in shape. But do it because you want to look good. Not mainly because you want other people to validate you.

How do you find out what you really want to do? By thinking and by experimenting and just trying things out (the image you have of something in your head can be very different from the actual experience). Get to know what you really want in your life.

When you have figured out what you really want take out a pen and piece of paper. Write down all the reasons why you want to achieve this.

You can use this paper later on to solve some the other problems that may pop up.

2. You confuse homeostasis with “time to give up”.

One problem with sticking with your resolution is homeostasis. What that means is that any system wants to be stable. That goes for you. And for the people around you.

So after the initial enthusiasm wanes it may not feel as that much fun anymore. It’s sort of enthusiasm backlash. This is the homeostasis kicking in within your mind (no matter if the goal/habit etc. is actually very positive for you). It’s a resistance to change to keep the system (you) stable. If you are simply aware of this being what it is - rather than a signal to give up - you can persevere, be patient and keep going more easily.

You should also be aware that the homeostasis may appear in the people around you too. Sure, you getting shape might be great. But it means changes in the lives of the people around you too (perhaps new food and nights spent running instead of watching TV with the family etc.). So the people around may react negatively in some way. Realize that it is the homeostasis in them, not that they are being mean. It’s their brains doing what’s natural to keep the system (the family, circle of friends etc.) stable when “scary change” intrudes.

3. You don’t know how to handle your bad days.

We all have bad days, days when we don’t feel like doing anything about our resolutions. That’s normal.

But it can be dangerous to just go with how you feel and think on those days. It can lead to more days with nothing getting done. So you have to help yourself to keep moving on those days too to be consistent and stick with establishing your new habit. You can do this in a couple of ways.

* Pump up your enthusiasm/motivation. There are many ways to temporarily pump up your emotions for a short while. Two of my favourite ways is to act myself in to an enthusiastic state of mind and to get an enthusiastic vibe from other people (in person or via CDs/DVDs). One great way to remind yourself why you are doing all this hard work is to pull out your piece of paper from tip # 1 and review it. This might be what you need to feel better for the moment and be able to take action again.
* Acceptance. On some days those things won’t work. Then it might be better to go for just accepting how you feel. By accepting you stop resisting, for instance, going to the gym. Your focus is now on acceptance and you are no longer feeding more energy into the resistance and making it stronger. Most of the time your negative feelings will lose so much power when you are in an accepting frame of mind that after a while going to the gym doesn’t feel like such a burden anymore.
* Just do it. So you can’t get acceptance to work either? Well, you are still in control. Your emotions or thoughts are not in control. So just get up off the couch and do what you know is the right thing despite how you feel right now. Just go and do it and soon – as you start doing – you’ll feel better again. You can read more about the Just Do It-habit right here.

4. You’re not changing your environment to suit you.

I think this is an important and sometimes overlooked point. To be able to change you may have to change parts of your daily environment to better support you when establishing your new habit.

* Make it easy. The weather can be pretty bad this time of year. So it becomes very easy to rationalize to yourself that you don’t have to go to the gym because of the snow or rain. So make it easier. Buy some free weights and/or an exercise bike and work out from home. This can really help you to improve your consistency.
* Make it fun. You don’t have to go running if you never really liked it. You can play soccer if you think that is more fun. Try different activities to find what fits you. And find a workout partner if you think that will help you to get things done (and have more fun).
* Remind yourself. You memory is often not that good when you are doing something new, at least for the first month. So put a reminder on the fridge to work out after supper. Put out your training clothes and running shoes so you notice them (instead of having them tucked away in the closet where you forget about them). You may even want to put up your note with all the reasons for sticking with your resolution by your bathroom mirror to get a motivational boost at the start of each day.
* Remove easy availability. If you are going to eat healthier this year then one simple but effective tip is simply to remove the easy availability. So toss out all the cookies and then fill up that vacuum in your life by filling your cupboard and fridge with healthier snacks like fruit and nuts.

5. You don’t have a realistic plan and expectations.

It’s easy to get caught up in the enthusiasm and think your resolution will be taken care of within a few weeks. In reality, however, things tend to take longer than we may have hoped for. Especially if you haven’t done anything similar before and lack actual experience to draw understanding from.

To make a realistic plan you need to educate yourself. Not just draw up some random plan. Have a look at some well respected books ­- for instance by checking the Amazon rating/reviews for them - and websites on the topic you’re interested in. Talk and listen to people who have actually done what you want to do.

I would also recommend focusing on making the activity the goal, not the result. If you focus on losing 20 pound and misjudge the time and effort it will take to do that then it’s very easy to become disheartened and give up.

So focus on the process, focus on - for instance - working out 3 times a week instead. Make that your habit and adjust the difficulty along the way. You should still have your goal of losing those pounds in your mind and measure from time to time. But keep your main focus on just going to the gym or running track consistently, week in and week out. The pounds will come off as a side effect of that habit.

With a realistic plan where you focus on consistent action it become easier to be more patient. And also not to give up when you are faced with homeostasis or the inevitable mistakes and temporary failures along the way.

6. You’re focusing on too many resolutions at once.

If you have too many goals, to many habits to implement directly at the start of 2009 it may wind up in little being established as a natural part of your life two months later.

Enthusiasm is great. But it can make you so unfocused that you just bounce around like Tigger. Or drain you after a while as you try to create too many new habits at once. Especially if you are not used to it. Or in great shape energy wise (keep an eye on what you eat, how much you sleep and the exercise you get).

It may be better to just focus on your most important habit/resolution for January. It will be less of a drain on energy and focus. And you still have 11 more months to establish other habits you want to incorporate into your life.

This may sound like a slow and boring way of going about things. But it’s whole lot better – and more effective – than becoming fatigued, feeling down on yourself for not being able to keep up with all your resolutions and finally giving up completely.

7. You let temporary failure or mistakes lead to giving up completely.

I failed and gave up three or four times before I could establish a habit of working out three times a week. I think read that Steve Pavlina failed four times before he was able to switch to a raw diet and finally stick to it. And Edison failed several thousands of times before he got the light bulb to work as he wanted.

So you got to understand that failure is normal. And the best route is to keep going and gain understanding from your failures or mistakes. Social conditioning and homeostasis often seems to lead us to believe that if you fail you should go home and not ever try again.

But the most successful people are so successful just because they failed, learned and tried again. And again. Because they viewed failure and mistakes as something valuable and pretty positive instead of something dreadful and painful.

2009 will pass no matter what you do. You will arrive at New Year’s Eve this year too.

So if your fail or make some mistakes, so what? Since the time will pass no matter what you do you might as well try again. By doing that you can make 2009 your best year ever.

ROAD WARRIOR WEEKEND in CA 11/20-22/09

PLEASE READ THIS FIRST
If you wish to participate in this, please let me know by July !!! Certain tvoulonteers and performers may get free admission. I would also like to orgonize transportation and stuff to this event so its cheapaer for us all.
Dmitri

Read on the official announcement !!!
November 20 - 22, 2009
OK, guys...here it is! Please remember some entertainment, etc. can be subject to change, I will keep this page updated at all times until the event date.
SAVE THE DATES! Post a comment if you are planning on attending and forward this info/page link to others! THANK YOU!
We will have some of the cars (authentic and replica) from the movies there as well as my FAVORITE character "WEZ" (Vernon Wells), too!

3 days in the beautiful desert full of leather, mohawks, football pads, chains, motorcycles, sandrails, ATVs, muscle cars, dust, water cannons, bon fires, fire-eaters, live music, the smell of gasoline and Vegemite!

Kinda like a post-apocalyptic Burning Man…without the hippies!

LOCATION:
Stoddard Valley Off-Highway Vehicle Area, off the 15 Freeway, 15 miles south of Barstow, CA


COST:
$60.00 per person

ACTIVITIES:
1. Overnight camping (must have a Road Warriorized/Mad Maxed encampment, pavillion, RV, trailer or "hovel"!)
2. Off-roading & 4X4ing – All off road vehicles MUST be "Road Warriorized/Mad Maxed" (helmets required on all ATVs)
3. Best Road Warrior-ized CAR SHOW vehicle contest w/prizes
4. "Off-Road Warrior" Race w/prizes
5. Best Road Warrior Costume Contest w/ Prizes
6. Fosters in kegs and a Vegemite eating contest! (THIS should prove hilarious!)
7. Showing of the entire "Mad Max" trilogy back to back on a HUGE outdoor movie screen Saturday night while we party the night away!
8. You get a cool commemorative t-shirt of the event and memories that will kick the ass of ALL OTHER MEMORIES!

You have to bring your own off road vehicles, gas, safety equipment, camping equipment, firewood, water guns, food, drinking water, alcohol (Fosters beer provided) and costumes.

*NO REAL GUNS, LIVE AMMO or SHOOTING ALLOWED – NO EXCEPTIONS!*
Do you make props, costumes or have off-road vehicles to rent and would like to offer your services to attendees of this event? Email me or post a comment on this blog and we will cross-promote each other!

If you belly dance, fire eat, play in a band or perform some other cool act (NO FLESH ACTS - HANGING OR POKING, ETC. sorry!) and you can wear a costume that has a "post-apocalyptic" feel to it, email me ASAP! This is the 1st annual event, and most of the costs will come out of my pocket or breaking even, so I can't pay, but you will get free entry to the event and plenty of free press as well as a kick ass time!

Do you want to be a sponsor or be a VENDOR at this event? (i will let you know later)

Do you own authentic or replica vehicles or memorabilia from the Mad Max trilogy? Contact me or leave me a comment here if you are interested in participating.

We would love to have you and your friends come out and entertain us! ! So fire eaters & spinners are GREAT!
Let me know WHO (names) exactly will be performing and what they do with photos/videos and I will waive entry fees!
As SOON as you get confirmed, let me know. Would like to get in on the lineup ASAP! It's filling up fast!

Thanks so much for your participation!

Event Org !!