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Brandon Eaton and Seann William Scott Naked in "Balls Out: The Gary Houseman Story"

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Brando Eaton Naked in "Balls Out: The Gary Houseman Story" Redux

I stumbled upon this post via QueerClick's

I hadn't realized that Seann was up to getting naked in his movies. Then I read these things and started wondering if he's a closet gay dude. From Wikipedia: His first professional gig was on television in the music video for "Hole in My Soul" by Aerosmith. Soon after the video, he appeared in Chad's World, a gay-themed TV show broadcast on the Web by the short-lived Digital Entertainment Network.

From it tells us more details about Seann:
Seann's first television appearance was on the 1996 television show Unhappily Ever After. He

played the part of "Moondoggie" in the episode "Beach Party".
Seann admits, "I was a virgin all through high school, I was so into sports I never had time for girls. now I'm glad I didn't. I'd rather wait till I meet the right one."
Seann has said that he enjoys "going commando."
SWS avoided nude scenes for so long and now he’s done three in a short period – 2 in this flick, 1 in Role Models. And at 32, it is a bit of a reversal of fortunes. Most get their buns out on film when they young, tight, and trying to make a name for themselves (I’m thinking Matt Damon in School Ties). Seann drops trou nearly 10 years after his big Steve Stifler breakout role in the American Pie film series.

I was scrounging around Netflix, and I caught that "Balls Out: The Gary Houseman Story" had been added to the Instant Queue. I watched it again to ogle at Seann William Scott in a jockstrap. But then I saw Brando Eaton and his amazing bubble butt, and I was like, "I don't remember that?" So, I compared the caps I already done, and Netflix has a better aspect ratio so I had to recap them and share.

See more pictures in this blogger's Brando Eaton gallery.
You can also see more of Seann William Scott showing off his ass in a jock strap at:

Photo and story text below was posted on Male Celebs Only (a personal blog). I had not yet been able to corroborate this story or determine whether it's a faked photo or not, or find independent evidence to confirm that he did pose for this magazine cover.

Sean William Scott’s gone a long way from merely being a MILF’s son in the American Pie series, to someone posing in Playdude and showing off his nutsack and meatstick. I reckon it’s about time, too. Posing in the nude with a smile on his face shows he’s game for, I dunno, more serious Hollywood roles, maybe? I mean, more serious than being Steve Stifler or Bo Duke, anyway. Still, if producers pass him up for better-endowed males or perhaps taller ones, the porn biz would definitely welcome him with open arms and legs. Think about it, Sean, willya?
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Locker Room Etiquette 1

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The following is part of a long group discussion on the topic of locker room behavior and etiquette on a bulletin board:

SSbrownbear says:
Generationally, there is a huge difference in how men treat nudity. Men of a certain age - nowadays those 35 or even 40+ - grew up in a time when communal nudity just wasn't a big deal. Notice how many of these posts talks about "old guys." Most of us HAD to shower after gym - we got used to being naked with our peers.

Younger men have a completely different set of experiences. They have almost NO experience of

No right or wrong here - just different generations and experiences communal nudity. I bet only a handful of guys under 35 reading this ever had to shower after gym class. Larger homes and privacy mean that casual nudity - seeing a brother or dad nude probably doesn't happen. There is no context for nude being "okay" except under very specific circumstances.
Posted on 12/17/2008 at 8:15 am EST

John says:
The only time I'm ever completely naked in the men's locker room is while changing in and out of my clothes. Usually, I'll bring a towel with myself when using the sauna or steam room. With that said, most men I have encountered in the locker room are nude at some point or another. If your not comfortable with nudity then cover up. If you want to avoid seeing other men change...don't go into the changing room.
Posted on 11/20/2008 at 6:08 pm EST

Dr Evil says:
Its about time this was brought to light. The locker room is not a buffet for you damn homos. Wrap your towel aroud you and qiut staring.
Posted on 11/20/2008 at 9:13 am EST

David says:
Normally I change under a towel, wrap a towel around my waist when walking around the locker room, and drape a towel over my privates when using the sauna or steam room. However, the last time I used the men's locker room while staying at a hotel in Abu Dhabi I decided to branch out. I emerged from the steam room and walked over to the changing area to find another hairy Middle Eastern man with a towel around his waist. After pulling out my clothes, I noticed him undo his towel, stretch his legs and dry of his crotch, pubes aplenty. For the first time this vivid display of the male body seemed normal and comfortable. Then and there I dropped my towel, completely naked for the first time in front of another man. I didn't even care if he was looking at my penis. Why should I? He has one too.
Posted on 11/20/2008 at 3:23 am EST

jezstar says:
i'd hate 2 get erect in a locker room, you would always be
known as "that guy who got hard in the showers" then
people would reply "oh... that guy..."
Posted on 11/18/2008 at 7:53 am EST

me says:
do we?
Posted on 10/24/2008 at 2:25 pm EST

ordinarybloke says:
Most guys at my gym in the UK, particularly the East Europeans, seem pretty unfussed about being naked, often going into the sauna without nothing on. The ones that seem to have a hang up are the younger English guys who can be seen showering with their trunks on or putting on their boxers with their towels wrapped around them - all of which seems a bit odd to me. Most of the guys there are regulars and used to being naked. I admit when I first joined the gym it felt a bit awkward being naked around other guys, as the showers don't have seperate stalls, but after a couple of times those feelings of being self-conscious soon disappear. The worst a guy will do is have a quick glance at your bits, which if we're being honest we all do from time to time.
Posted on 10/21/2008 at 10:10 am EST

Chilled says:
I only get naked with women and plan on keeping it that way.
Posted on 09/20/2008 at 12:00 am EST

atlhockey says:
Yeah, we have one guy at my gym who is unbelievably hairy. I mean I've always considered myself hairy, but this poor guy's got a total body pelt. Anyway, he actually dries off standing under one of those hand blowers meant for, well, the hands. Pretty funny.
Posted on 09/08/2008 at 6:35 am EST

Dave says:
I'm a gym trainer and the worst thing to see is guy bent over trying to dry his arse with the hair dryer
not nice
Posted on 09/05/2008 at 7:34 am EST

Joe Camel says:
Look, but don't touch..thats a no/no..May be the only looks some of you guys can get anyway...
Posted on 09/02/2008 at 7:25 pm EST

leonhardtx says:
This discussion has got me paying more attention to what goes on in the locker room. The other day I saw an older Chinese guy at the sinks shaving, with only a t-shirt on (naked below the waist). He was a short, stocky guy with a craggy face who looked tough and hard-bitten. Nothing remotely weak or gay about him. Perhaps an immigrant (had that "come from a tough life in the old country" look).

He wasn't looking around or paying attention to anybody else.
Before I might have wondered if he was trying to make a point by not having shorts or a towel on. But after the other guys' comments here, it actually seemed like he was just comfortable and not fussing about something unimportant. He was very relaxed. I won't necessarily do that myself, but he set a good example.
Posted on 08/29/2008 at 12:38 pm EST

atlhockey says:
Anotherguy, I have never chosen a locker for its proximity to the showers, I generally walk nude from locker to shower room, carrying my towel or slinging it over one shoulder. This keeps it dry and clean and I'm gonna be naked in 30 seconds anyway, so what would be the point in covering up?. I hadn't really thought about "the walk" as being awkward, but everybody's different.
Posted on 08/26/2008 at 6:52 am EST

anotherguy says:
I agree that we should use common sense in a locker room. Be naked when you have to. We're all grown up men and there's nothing to be ashamed of. But don't over do it.
I have one question though.The ackward thing for me in my locker room is the walk from my locker to the showers. I know I can put on my towel, but I'd rather keep it clean for when I come out of the shower. And yes, this means me having to walk naked to the shower area. I always try to use the locker that is closet to the showers.
Yes, I am not ashamed or anything if I walk a few steps naked to the showers.
What do you guys think?
Posted on 08/25/2008 at 2:50 pm

mytetop says:
What the heck has happened to being a man, its a locker room, I played sports in high school and college, act like you have got some sense, its bad enough that we are being flooded with all the womans movement now we can't even be men in an all male enviroment. We have let the younger guys become afraid of their own bodies, and where will that lead too, FEAR, we all have the same male equipment. Grow up men, grow up and have some common sense, you know when incidents are taken to far. Respect women but also respect that you are a man too. I have grown so tired of this catering attitude towards the rights of women and the lack of respect toward men, again, grow up. Deal with your homophobia, afterall that is what is not being addressed too.
Posted on 08/24/2008 at 12:42 am EST

Mel says:
I switched gyms because I got "the goated" from the older men too many times.
Posted on 08/21/2008 at 9:01 pm EST

atlhockey says:
More power to you, NUDE MEANS NOTHING. We should all feel comfortable in the locker room, and you're right, it's none of my business how long somebody stays nude. I basically just do my thing and don't let myself get too jazzed by others. After all, locker rooms are what they are. And for most of us nudity around other males, especially if you've played sports, is no big deal. Now nudity around females??? Co-ed locker rooms?? That would be interesting!
Posted on 08/21/2008 at 11:41 am EST

Posted on 08/21/2008 at 9:36 am EST

atlhockey says:
Hey Rye 3111, don't get me wrong. There is a point when too much nudity is too much. But I think it's an imprecise definition. It's like you know it when you see it. That ONE GUY who insists on nudity until it's not feasible to be naked anymore. He can throw off the whole equilibrium of the locker room -- can, in effect, make the rest of us naked guys actually feel naked. And that ends up feeling weird. I pay no attention to the exhibitionists. I am nude for an appropriate length of time. I'm not embarassed in the least to be nude but the locker room is not a place for me to flaunt my body. It's a place to change and wash and, frankly, socialize. It sounds like your lacrosse team is a good example of what I would call healthy locker room behavior. Guys being guys.
Posted on 08/19/2008 at 10:40 pm EST

Rye3111 says:

so guys being guys is hanging out for extended periods of time with our pieces dangling for all to see.
I think I know what you mean, rather that guys being guys is hanging out, just not really worrying too much about what other guys are doing, i agree with you on that front.
Listen, I've been in locker rooms since I was 2. I've probably seen more naked men than Madonna. I really don't care what you do and it doesn't actually make me uncomfortable. Maybe it just seems the new social norm to at least toss a towel on when trancing around the locker room.
I don't know, the right answer, probably isn't really a right one. but considering how easy it is to put on your skivies, or wrap a towel, why do you think these guys seem to want to be naked so much?
Posted on 08/19/2008 at 11:00 am EST

atlhockey says:
What makes a locker room comfortable is people who are relaxed. That usually comes from familiarity -- either with using locker rooms in general or using the same locker room every day. I generally see the same 20 or 30 guys every morning at my gym. We know each other by sight, we strike up conversations in the showers, while we're shaving, getting dressed/undressed. The fact that we might be nude is superfluous. I feel sorry for guys who are uptight in locker rooms because they are number one, a fact of male life, and number two, the last places on earth where guys can be guys and not worry about females getting pissed off about it. As for inappropriate/weird behavior -- I've been using locker rooms for 30 years and can recall only three instances in which I was uncomfortable.
Posted on 08/19/2008 at 9:27 am EST

Monday says:
Older guys were in the military. That knocks the modesty out of you.
Posted on 08/18/2008 at 9:58 pm EST

Leonhardtx says:
One more thing about Rye3111's last comment that just struck me, then I'll shut up: He said a locker room is a public place, and implied we should be modest or whatever there. It just hit me -- I don't agree with that at all. The only reason men and women don't change together, to me, is that we don't want to expose women and girls to the possibility of guys getting aroused and hitting on them when their clothes are off.

There are no similar reasons in a men's locker room to say that a guy should cover up. Historically men didn't do so -- they went skinny dipping, they crapped & pissed in full view of each other in communal pits or outhouses, etc.

So it isn't a "public" place where we need to be modest. That said, it's still weird to prance around naked all the time.
Posted on 08/18/2008 at 9:43 pm EST
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Picking up guys - An ongoing discussion and revelations

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Most of this entry was excepted from a comment I wrote on Jo's blog. Thanks to Jo Kristian of Histories of Sex Blog for his own poll, and inviting us to answer the Sex Meme one below, and for generating the stimulating discussion on 'How to pick up guys for casual sex.'

His posts always get my hormones boiling especially when I imagine the parts that you cleverly (or coyly?) leave out of your descriptions of sexual adventuring. My slant on 'making and taking one's opportunities' is too long to enunciate here. Gist: It's not so much a matter of what defines the sexual / erotic/ suggestive behavior, but what result(s) the behavior produces.
Let me briefly explain (exchanging comments only works for short conversations - I think).

For example, I often go out to walk my dogs (in turns since there are 3 of them) early in the morning (and sometimes at other times of day) with my zipper all the way down. With a untucked in shirt, it's not clearly visible UNLESS someone is actually glimpsing at it or trying to peer in order to get a look at my pubes or cock. You have commented on that before - you can TELL who's interested by following the paths their eyes take as they approach.

The 'result' in your case might be a potential encounter in the bushes of the park. But for others of us, that's far less likely (in suburban Tokyo or London) so it just appears - in effect - to be an (older man's) exhibitionistic fetish behaviour. Neither of these is a problem but the actual result and also the way such behaviour is perceived by the person doing it, by the interested viewer, and the uninterested passer-by (even angry or disgusted), or even by hearsay in society can be enormously different and therefore have a great effect on the person doing it. There is probably less effect on the guys who notice and just try to forget about it.

Youth certainly has its charms and it often affords one the license to be free of guilt or very uninhibited since youth can choose to act on it - both in having desire or in the lack of it and any action.

What seems critical to me is the psychological game (a type of sexual ecology) that's going on in these situations. Thomas Mann's A Death in Venice is a classic portrait of the two sides of the romantic (and hardly even physical) chase between the young and the older male. I wonder what Tadzio was thinking when he noticed the older man watching him. It's probably a bit like that for you .. after all, you only in your early 20s. Think for a moment ( briefly - if you will) of what things will be like when you are nearly 50 or even 70 years of age.

As always.. thanks for writing (and reading)....

Kelly (sunbuns99 / sunbunz)

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Have you ever had sex with a real porn star?

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On a recent discussion forum, there was a question asked:

Have you ever had Sex with a real porn star? How was it?

GermanBoy3 wrote:

I personally did, :two different guys. But I didn't see much difference other than I wad way more
nervous than normal, cause both of them are so hot!
So how was your experience?
hungboi19 wrote

I love how no one is mentioning the names lol. Confidentiality? :P
While I didn't mention any names on the site, I will show the photos of a few of porn stars that I have communicated with (Either in chat, via a blog comment, on Twitter or by other means). None of these communications has been live or in person (like via a telephone). There are a couple more, but they have quit working longer ago, and I have had no further contact with them, and don't even know how to get in contact. One of them, a young twink guy who called himself Trox , got semi-famous posting sex videos of himself using a dildo on Youtube (and other sites). Later he worked briefly with porn star Brent Everett's studio, but probably quit the porn job to start college. He should have finished by now, so he may reappear suddenly.
Note: The first guy on the far left is also famous for his 'pissing boys' videos, who once made a porn film with one of the other, who is even more famous for his water sports action films.

Follow up: sunbuns99, who wrote:

I wish I could say yes, but... at least, I have a couple I chat with regularly (via a PC) - not actually in person - although I might could meet up with one of them in SF.

I'm getting to the age that I might be able play the role of 'sugar daddy' for a few of them.
They certainly don't need a 'daddy' - by any means.

I won't drop names.. but they are mostly former porn stars who have now taken up somewhat different careers paths and/or lifestyles. Two are studying in college now. The other is looking to re-boost his career and branch out making his own porn. They are all smart, energetic, ambitious, and giving individuals (as in "loving") who are stuck up on themselves in reality.

They are men that anyone would be proud to know or glad to have as friends - besides the fact that they are drop-dead gorgeous. But every good (and bad) thing must come to an end - and I don't mean the anus.
So -- in the end (no pun intended) I don't really care that or whether I can't have sex with them.
They'll make me happy enough as it is - just learning to be themselves in their post-porn lives.

Follow up: sunbuns99
Let me re-emphasize one of my points above.

They _ARE NOT_ so stuck on themselves (as one may think) is what I had meant to write. However, it's true that they didn't make it to near the top of the gay porn industry by being sweet and docile either. They can be cocky, sometimes even arrogant, but then they do get fucked in the ass in most of their films.

I guess I have an automatic affinity for those ex-porn stars who frequently (or exclusively) played popular bottoms. Those are the ones who are likely to get the bum rap or who can't adopt a new 'role' (by buffing up with muscle training and steroids) to play a BDSM top or a daddy bear when they start to get older, or reach the big 30 or 40 (and older).

So my (oversensitive, almost female) brain gets all mushy over these poor sweet-butt hotties, who are getting a bit too old to play twinks, have a new hubby who wants him to quit porn, or who finally have developed aspirations to do some more challenging and creative with their lives - not that I am decrying their porn careers in the least.
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Our car dare: A story by Thorn

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This is an original story written by Thorn and first published on:
thorngay (at)
First published Monday, July 2, 2007 2:18:10 AM

Subject: [thorngay] Our car dare The story continues...

The following night Eric arrived as arranged when the previous night. He looked great, his white T-shirt and
white shorts showed off his body well.

I playfully put my arm around his waist enjoying the
warmth of his body as I ushered him into the house.
"You really on for this," I asked. "You bet," said
Eric, "this is going to be a blast."

Eric had dared me the previous night to drive aroundtown wearing nothing but a T-shirt. I had said he had
to join me, so here we were ready to go. "OK, let's go
for it," I said my heart beginning to pound and my
cock getting hard in anticipation.

We headed out to my car and got in. "Why don't we
drive to the beach," I said, "we can lose our shorts

"Sounds good to me," said Eric. On the way Eric was
talking about our impromtu window show the previous
night, then talked about all sorts of other things he
had done previously. "But doing it together is so much
more fun," he gave my thigh a squeeze.

We reached the beach and parked the car. "OK, you
first... this was your idea," I laughed. Without having to
be asked twice, Eric pulled down his shorts revealing that lovely uncut dick I had seen for the first time the previous night. I couldn't be a
party pooper so I pulled my shorts down and off my

So here we were, in my car in public naked from the
waist down and both of us slightly hard with
excitement. "Right," I started the engine and drove off down the road. There were a few people around,
from where they were standing we looked as though we
were fully clothed.

The danger was that a higher
vehicle would drive alongside us, someone would look
out of a building, or that someone would cross the

We drove around for some time enjoying the excitement
of this risk of being seen.

It was Eric who said, "Let's go drive down where the
cruisers gather". This was the place where all the
young guys turn up and ogle at each others cars and
equipment... although I have also reckoned quite a lot
of them are sizing up each other's equipment, not just
the cars'!

"Wow, you have got to be kidding!" I responded, "we
may well be seen! There will be people all round."
"So, all the more fun," Eric replied, "come on, we
wanted some fun." "OK, I replied and turned the car

We arrived at the car park that everyone meets in and
drove in. Sure enough there were guys around our age
everywhere, looking at cars, peering into cars and
standing around in groups. I drove round the outside
of the car park. "Come on," Eric said, "go there!" He
was pointing to an area which was full of guys
standing round cars. "OK," I said with a shrug of the

We drove down towards the group of twenty or so guys.
They were all around our age, some looked as though
they must just have passed their driving test
yesterday. I drove slowly past with my dick now quite
hard with the excitement. One of the guys must have
spotted and nudged his mate who turned round looked in
and smiled. Further on another guy was even more
blatant as he pointed and drew the attention of two
others. My dick was now jumping and I looked across at
Eric who was hard as a rod.

We drove out of the car park, with Eric protesting
that we should go round again. "No way," I said
heading on the road home.

We arrived at my houses still wearing only our
T-shirts. We had driven right through the centre of
town. It was getting dark so it wasn't too risky but
it was pretty damn exciting, wondering if a bus would
pull up alongside, a pedestrian walk through the
traffic, or a big 4x4 come past.

We arrived at my house and, got out of the car still
naked from the waist down with a massive hard on. I
walked round behind the car and Eric got out and
headed my way. He too was hard and big.

Standing behind the car I grabbed his T-shirt and
pulled it up and off. He was now naked in the darkness
between the house and the hedge. Eric lifted my
T-shirt, sliding his hand up my stomach and chest. I
grabbed Eric's hard dick and started stroking, we lay
down on the cool concrete. I was the first to cum. It
was one of those deep shuddering ones that you get after real excitement.

Eric stayed at my house that night and as we drifted off to sleep hugging each other we talked about what
thrills we would get up to next.

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A "classic" CMNM experience and its meaning explored

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These are the 'real' guys who really do it for me... like in this CMNM photo. It's a classic (NON-sexual) situation - but for the 'trained' observer (and practitioner of CMNM(clothed male naked male) .. this is very hot. It's a photo that has story - a set of relationships - buddy-to-buddy and in a group..

It's about being naked (because of and for the benefit of others ) for uniquely for reasons that are different for each person in the room.
And it''s about having fun. They are dancing and naked with friends -- not so much ashamed as just shy or reluctant to brag or show off - but still just enough to want to... the hot young bodies make it the whole scene even more eye-catching and attractive...

The second photo is another classic CMNM example. The guys are just being boys and doing 'what boys do' but so often it involved playful sexually-suggested aggressive behavior. Although he appears to be just all in fun, it's really a lot more about the sensuality of male sex. Sometimes, I'd dare say a lot more than could ever be admitted by them (although eventually 'one' will grow up and confess otherwise).. there is a lot more sexual attraction and downright flirtation in these 'naked fights' than meets the eye.

A recent posting (today or last night) was definitely a CMNM experience and not simply male-to-male flashing.
stephen wrote: I'm a VERY straight looking and acting Bi guy and LOVE getting seen naked by straight men. I really enjoy having Workmen, Truck Drivers etc see me in the buff. I keep it TOTALLY straight though.

I recently went for a bike ride on a hot day, and came accross a Truck Stop. There was a Truck Driver washing his truck. The area was kinda hidden from the main road. I asked the Driver if there were any taps around to cool off. He pointed one out next to his truck.

I stripped off and had a shower under the hose! He knew i was naked, and it was obvious he didn't care, nor was interested- PERFECT!
I then walked up to him starkers and started chatting while drying off.
I love this sort of thing, nothing sexual- just Blokey nudity!
Anyone else into the same? Forgive me for crossing posting.... but this CNMN thread was far down the list (and probably NOT going to be read unless it has a 'new' posting)

The above story by Stephen is the kind of non self-gratifying erotic or intimate experience (no or little arousal or orgasmic climax - at least not then - maybe later) is exactly what I've been talking about (on this site and others and my new blog) - as the classic CMNM experience.

Sports team member is stripped and shows off for the coaches and staff members. [Caption for photo above.]

I think it comes from a basic need for most (gay or str8 ) males to express intimacy between themselves and other men - - it's not just sexual lust (although it certainly can be and - for some people -- it IS a large part of it - for others, perhaps like Stephen - it is not - it's more social and psychological or emotional.

So. .CMNM is using 'nudity' to symbolize and actualize this intimacy. Think about it... what could be MORE intimate than bearing your nude body to another guy (clothed or not) - it's a kind of symbolic act - NOT SUBMISSIVE either -' although for some guys it could be )-- but it's like saying: "Hey, dude. I am me - see me as I am and accept me for what and who I am. I want to be your buddy and for you to be mine."

Often times, it is easier for guys to start to really communicate once one of them has 'bared' his soul and his body to his buddy (or even a new friend or stranger)..... We can see this theme repeated over and over again on the different posts on this board.... CMNM occurs when one male 'needs' to be nude - actually naked - and the other guy(s) are clothed - they are apparently NON-plussed by the fact of the nudity or just oblivious, unconcerned or feigning disinterest. For some the 'clothed' person becomes an object of desire IF he seems to be interested and excited by the sight of the nudity - other's seem to get their rocks off by the embarrassment that such causes to the clothed viewer.. all these are simply variations on the basic theme.

I know somebody is going to say I'm over intellectualizing - I can agree with that... but no matter how much I 'talk' / lecture - or NOT... it doesn't change the fact that male-to-male intimacy and the lack of it is at the core of what drives us to return to this site and these discussion and to tell our stories and experiences...

Stephen's experience is what I call what I call an 'authentic' CMNM experience. It's not really about flashing, which is a specific kind and more directed or focused sexual experience than the one that Stephen is describing above.

For more info see my blog (or contribute to it):
Guys into CMNM (on Blogger)
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A night of splendid sexual and erotic stimulation: Atlanta Flex and Swinging Richard's

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I just got back home from an extended vacation/business/family visit. I was able to visit several cool places and some gay saunas & bath houses, too.

Most recently was Flex Atlanta. Abe (above) reports that the one is Phoenix was too dark for his tastes; however, Flex Atlanta was quite different. Actually, it was one of the more exciting ones I've been to in a while - although it was just a Tuesday night in Atlanta. I was impressed most by the size and layout of the place. For me, being able to sunbathe nude and erect, or to have sex outdoors is a big turn on.

Flex Atlanta is a little known enclave that can boast an outdoors lawn with chaise lounges just next to a busy expressway (I-75) and almost in the shadow for the Olympic Torch Monument and several skyscrapers. I did wonder a bit if the people in the high rises could (or would) actually be looking down on Flex's sexual garden. The staff was helpful and friendly; there was free Internet access (although I don't think free wifi), and both a gym and pool (although the water condition was excellent it was nice to swim in later March, and sunbathe naked in the afternoon. The place didn't get hopping but it had free parking and also in-out privileges, twice in the 8-hour that your entrance fee pays for. There's an Arby's at the corner so you can get food before entering or take a break to go for take out.

The cost was quite good too compared to other baths. ($15 or $20 rooms, $10 lockers but 50% off on Tuesdays) although there is an additional day membership (or longer more economical ones, too). There is a large glory hole section, a lounge and exercise gym, but not much secluded open space to watch the 3-4 porn videos constantly playing except in the hallways. The showers, steam and dry saunas are adequate but a bit old and most people wore sandals because I suspect that athlete's foot fungus abounds. There are many places to sit either except inside the saunas or outside, although there is a small semi-secluded smoking area near the entrance.
It's really worth a try if you are in the Atlanta area. I am wondering now if they will rent out the facility or at least parts of it for a private gatherings, like an club orgy or maybe a CMNM sexual role-play event - just a thought.

However, what makes it a must-return sexual rendezvous for me was the fact that I could stay the night and also use one of my two out privileges (leaving the place without giving up the room) and visit Swinging Richard's all-male strip bar about 15 minutes away by car. Tuesdays is also reduced entry to Swinging Richard's and you'll more then enjoy the hot beefy hunks, chocolate skinned thugs, manly dudes and cute twinks who dance until very late (3 am?) and eager offer to give you public lap dances at your table, semi-private and also very private lap dances.

I have to say that I really appreciate the dance naked Tucker. He wasn't all that young but he seemed so totally genuine and liked what he was doing unlike several of the male dancers. Tucker has an unbelievable smile and charm about him that have kept up his popularity even while his body is showing the signs of advancing gradually to his middle years. More importantly, he has a good personality and seems to know how to please men without being condescending or pretentious. I wasn't drunk at all so I'm NOT raving about Tucker from the effects of a drunk stupor. There were also quite a few men of color: Black, Hispanic and maybe even Middle Eastern (or Greek). Tucker is blond, VGL, and white, but I don't hold that against him (smile). The two young 18+ twinks were really hot, but once I had tasted Tucker's manly desires (no I didn't go for the private lap dance ($140 minimum for 15 minutes), I simply could not even look at the other boys, except, of course, when they were on stage in various stages of undress until full nudity (some of the dancers did not go for the Full Monty). I hope Tucker hears about this and reads my review. Contact me if you do. I'd love to take a raincheck on a separate date with you, Tucker.

Read more reviews elsewhere about Swinging Richard's. I thoroughly enjoyed being rubbed and fondled by a naked hunky man in the VIP lounge. Yes, it's all about cash.. but I admit that it was incredibly fun spending it in this way. I was certainly heated up by the time I returned for a late-night fuck-a-thon back again at Flex. Not surprisingly, there was plenty of sexually unsatisfied men who had hung around until 8am so that I had plenty of reason to get up and get more action from 6am-8am the day I left Atlanta fully satisfied with many blowjobs (given and gotten) and plenty of ass too (yes, both ways). The guy who brought me off early Wed morning wanted to get fucked through a glory hole. I'm glad he did because I had done the same thing with a stocky Mexican dude in the outdoor garden 8 hours earlier.

I can't wait to plan another sex trip to Atlanta again. Want join me this summer, July and August 2015?
Fri, February 13, 2015 - 7:25 PM — permalink - 0 comments - add a comment

Nude Japanese Men: A hot spring resort (onsen), public baths, or sauna

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Has anyone worked out where QueerClick get all these 'onsen' pictures from? I bet there's a forum or group somewhere, where the original photographs posts hundred of these pictures? The above question is being asked on the Yahoo Group [YMNA2] - Young Men's Nudist Association. So I have offered my own answer.

It's an interesting 'research' question, and one that is particular relevant to me since I live in Japan and visit onsen from time to time, and an all-male gay sauna pretty regularly. I have also posted these pics from Queerclick (giving them full credit) on my Gay Asian Man porn blog

(David (atitlan) can remove the link to this blog if it's not allowed. But I do not have any commercial advertising on any of my blogs, and always give the source of where the photo came from EVEN when all I know is what site or group has distributed them.)
Therefore, since I do visit 'onsen', I wonder when my own naked self in a Japanese hot springs bath/resort may appear somewhere on the Net - without my permission. P.S. I have dozens and dozens of photos depicting my own nudity that I've uploaded myself to various sites over the years, but those were given out with my recognition of the risks.
There is also a few other possible explanations for where these originated.

One of the large gay porn sites and gay porno producers may be selling off these kinds of photos as their commericial material. They could be actually stills or videos collected from video surveillance cameras located in the onsen resort and then leaked or sold to a porn company. The men in the photos (participants) don't appear to even know that their photos are being taken. Japanese act very differently when they are being photographed (nude or not). I have hundreds of candid photos of Japanese guys clowning around and attempting to cover themselves all the while putting on sometime outlandish stunts and gags while undressed partly or fully in the company of their male peers. I find it keenly interesting to observe and have written and shared photos and blog anecdotes about this homoerotic behavior many times (elsewhere).

So ... someone could be a subscribing member of one of those sites or is making still digital photos from the video footage or taking them from a subscription only website inside Japan. Photos depicting clearly visible photos for male and female (frontal) genitalia are illegal in Japan in any form or any media. That's the reason there are 'mosaic' coverings over the penises.

Another possibility is that anyone can make a contribution for photos to Queerclick through its Sticky section of their website. In fact, they ask for submissions and give out an email where viewers can send them.
In Sticky there are some regular contributors - one of whom may actually living in Japan and taking the photos himself (covertly). I couldn't pass as Japanese (being a middle-aged caucasian male) so taking photos of nude guys in the onsen or public baths or saunas would most likely be frowned on and a cause for being banned.

Many of this series of photos appears to be taken from the same location. (Note: the photo in the upper left seems like a genuine private photo (or at least NOT intended for gay male porn sites). Often, hot spring resorts and mineral baths have outdoors pools (and sometimes ornate Japanese gardens), therefore, it could possibly be easier to someone to hide behind a huge rock or tree in the garden and get these shots without being seen. While it doen't have any direct connection, I learned something about onsen and how public baths have evolved in the Japan during the last 10 years.

Lastly, I just learned recently that there are actually 58 location in central Tokyo alone where you can bath in hot mineral spring bath (although the water may be piped or trucked in for some of them, it's still natural spring mineral water, without being added artificially (or so they claim). The chief mineral in most all of them is salt. Some of them have equal or greater salinity than sea water.

I went to one of them the other night about 9:00pm since the price is greatly reduced for night time visits (open from 9am to midnight), and I was impressed by the relative spacious facilities (huge vaulted ceiling), various types of baths and temperatures, and a nice outdoor rock bath (rotenburo). No.. I did NOT bring my camera or cellphone. But there were some nice looking men - ages ranging from college kids to 30s salarymen, and nice-looking men in their 40s or so. It's pretty stimulating when a 20-something comes and lies down naked next to you in the reclining bath.

These are guys not 'gay' at all (or at least visibly), and these are basically like the old public bathhouses prevalent from feudal times until the mid-60s and 70s where the owner sat at the entrance to take the few yen, and could watch both the men and the women as they undressed and put their clothes in the lockers.

Nowadays, Japanese men and women might go as a family and then separate into the two side of the onsen building. Sometimes you can hear the women talking and laughing on the other side, but I have found that men who use these onsen type ofuro (baths) in the city usually come alone, and therefore don't converse easily with strangers. In the case of onsens in resort areas, urban dwellers usually go in groups of 2 - 15 men on a excursion with friends or a company retreat, so there is much more camaraderie, boisterous conversation, and sometimes a little sexy antics - especially if alcohol has been consumed for their entering the bath.

The exception at the urban onsen might be the wet steam sauna. Although it was quite big and could hold 30-40 bodies, and there were more people in it than in the rest of the baths at any one point, most people sat on the tile slabs nude and just relaxed. It was fun to get a nice view of several nude Japanese men in repose together

Maybe this says that (some) Japanese men at the bath were simply wanting to loose weight in the sauna, but it also might means that there is more of the naked body visible others when everyone is not sitting immersed in hot water, so that why more men had gathered there.

I could go on about the gay baths and saunas, but as you expect, those are pretty much similar to the ones in any country (I assume - since I haven't been to ones everywhere), but I have seen quite a lot.

Dare to stay bare for those who care,

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Places for finding sex in public: Cruising areas Part 2

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A Follow up of a discussion on : A response by sunbuns99 / sunbuns

This topic is a frequent one of interest to both gay and bi-curious men, of which the latter are married or involved in relationship with women and thus need some 'male-oriented' sexual release. I have blogged / talked about this many times but as the warmer weather approaches (in the northern hemisphere), thoughts of furtive sexual hunting games and orgiastic and erotic encounters in public places again captures my full attention and brings my (and maybe yours too) to full erection in anticipation of public outdoor sex with anonymous hunks and in reality, most times with regular blokes.

Where do you find the male cruising areas?

The list is not extensive or complete. I am sure many of you can recommend your own favorite gay beach or public cruising area.
Please add any you have enjoyed or know about in a comment below .

Well, it's partly gaydar.. or rather the basic hunting instinct of the male of the species. The place just seems right or you can feel the vibe of the cruisers mentality as you walk down a certain street or alley, enter a public park or seek out a less crowded corner of a local recreation area or beach. Public restrooms figure prominently in these zones of the sexual hunter. Perhaps not simply because they do offer a vehicle for 'semi-public' exposure of one's sexual and, obviously, excretory organs.
But it may be the associations, and the fact that men have just handled or are about to touch their own privates which may heighten their sexual awareness of others - particularly the men that are experiencing similar sensuous emotions - even when they can be put in actual words or envisioned in their minds as any kind of defined sexual act.

The ambiance of the gay cruise area may residence in such factors as: location, convenience, proximity to other male or gay-oriented spots (Home Depot's tool department, garden shop and its restrooms may be notorious in this respect), whether or not the male body can be exposed as normally accepted behavior, such as a public or university gymnasium lockerroom, or public swimming pool, or whether there is some chance of seeing the naked male body or at least parts of it (such as a beach, or sunbathers on grassy lawn in a big city park, or where even more explicit male (and/or female) nudity occurs, such as a strip club, or nude beach or clothing optional resort or camp, or at some public large-group events where nudity may be involved, such as Mardi Gras and Carnival, etc.

Here are some of my recommendations for places to find male-4-male sex (and gay, homoerotic or sexual stimulation or gratification in public places:

Some very large metropolitan parks in major world cities have an unspoken tradition of clandestine public sex. Englischer Garten in Munich’s central park, New York’s Central Park, San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park, and Tokyo’s Yoyogi Park are all places where (sometimes) and if you only know where to look you can see people (straight and gay couples) having sex. In Tokyo, a few years back, there was a kind of club of guys who made it their hobby to spy on couples making out or fucking or otherwise petting/masturbating each other and attempts to take photos (or at least use night vision binoculars).

Some large public fairs, street events and demonstrations sometimes have episodes of public sex: Southern Decadence (gay event at Labor Day in New Orleans), Mardi Gras, (at various locations), Folsom Street Fair, and Dore Alley Parade, etc… I am inclined to think it might happen at WNBR but I have no evidence to prove it (maybe just wishful thinking).

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The list is not extensive or complete. I am sure many of you can recommend your own favorite gay beach or public cruising area.

Please add any you have enjoyed or know about in a comment below .

If you have several you can also add them to a database of Cruising Spots and Places to Get Naked at Wufoo CMNM Places (online entry form):

The dunes of Maspalomas, near Playa del Ingles, Gran Canaria, Spain. The Canary Islands are Spanish territories off the coast of Morocco. Tons of gay semi-public and sometimes heterosexual sex going on in the dunes just behind the large nude beach (FKK) area.

2) There are dozens (if not more) nude beaches around Spain (from Barcelona to Cadiz).

Very often you can expect to see a gay men’s cruising area close by and therefore, sometimes you can view sexual acts by people (supposedly gay men) who either don’t know or who don’t care. I can give the names and locations for anyone who asks (politely). Smile!

3) Sometimes the parking lots at large beachside resorts become a sexual playground for a few adventure-some couples. Normally, only male-femalecouples can actually get away with it. But it does happen between men when there are the right circumstances - such as a full moon (April 18 is the next one) or when there is a nude beach nearby.

I watched a mixed race couple (M/F) fuck in the parking lot to Black’s Beach (along with quite a few other people) across from UCSD campus. It was really hot watching a big dick-clubbed black dude butt-pounded from behind a white woman with her bikini rolled down her legs, whom he either had just picked up on the nude beach, or with whom he had been ‘overstimulated’ by spending an afternoon out on the nude beach (mixed sexes).

P.S. Due to greater police and ranger patrols, this seems to becoming rarer.

A few such clothing optional beaches in the US that USED to have some public sex going on (either hidden or safely discreet) were:

Nude or Gay Beaches in the US

A few such clothing optional beaches in the US that USED to have some public sex going on (either hidden or safely discreet).

At least, I had the pleasure of getting lucky with one or more male sexual partners at each of the following public beaches:

a) Herring Cove State Beach, Provincetown, Cape Cod, Mass. (new patrols make it difficult to even be naked, and the rangers also patrol the dunes looking for illicit behavior to arrest guys)
b) Black’s Beach, La Jolla, between UCSD and Torrey Pines State Preserve (Park)
c) Baker’s Beach, San Francisco, near Golden Gate Bridge Land’s End Park, near The Presidio - not far from Seal Rock
d) San Onofre Beach Park, (no longer legally a nudist beach)
e) Williamette River, Eugene, Oregon - near Lane Community College, also near a concrete plant - a river side swimming area used to be a gay cruising zone, and was a place that hippies and college kids could get naked and fuck in peace.

Some very large metropolitan parks in major world cities have an unspoken tradition of clandestine public sex. Englischer Garten in Munich’s central park, New York’s Central Park, San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park, and Tokyo’s Yoyogi Park are all places where (sometimes) and if you only know where to look you can see people (straight and gay couples) having sex. In Tokyo, a few years back, there was a kind of club of guys who made it their hobby to spy on couples making out or fucking or otherwise petting/masturbating each other and attempts to take photos (or at least use night vision binoculars).

Some large public fairs, street events and demonstrations sometimes have episodes of public sex: Southern Decadence (gay event at Labor Day in New Orleans), Mardi Gras, (at various locations), Folsom Street Fair, and Dorey Alley Parade, etc… I am inclined to think it might happen at WNBR but I have no evidence to prove it (maybe just wishful thinking).
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Russian River - Cool and classy gay summer getaway in California

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Russian River, at Guerneville, California.

The Russian River resort and recreation area, is located about 70 miles from San Francisco, California; it has changed somewhat since I used to visit there regularly. Then there was the flood of 2006. Some establishments were just wiped off the map - so to speak. Others would recuperate after the expense of repairs and loss of business and have come back with gusto. Others decided to go 'straight' and clean up their act. However, the area is thriving both as a wine producing area that - to some degree - rivals its high profile neighbor, Napa Valley, and as a summer resort / recreation area which has a long tradition of attracting gay and lesbians day-trippers and vacationers. The main 'town' is Guerneville, CA - but there are a sprinkling of little hamlets nestled along the banks of the meandering Russian River as flows quietly to the Pacific Ocean or scattered through Sonoma County.

Russian River remains a great destination for San Francisco residents to escape the urban din or anyone visiting the state or city who wants a more laid-back and pastoral travel experience. It offers a lot: canoeing or rafting on the gentle Russian River, vineyard visits and wine-tasting tours, outdoor recreation like hiking and horseback riding, and all with a hour or so from other great sites, such as San Francisco's Golden Gate Park, Fisherman's Wharf, The Castro, and the Sonoma Coast Beach Parks along with Bodega Bay.

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Although I have been there recently since I did go for the Russian River Winegrower's Association Grape to Glass Wine Festival last year Aug 13-15, 2009, I stayed at Highlands Resort. It will be held again this year from August 20 - 22, 2010. You can find the details at:

I just love that Russian River Pinot Noir! It's light red with a delightful bouquet of tastes given to it by the fog along the banks of the Russian River. It was actually my first time to try it, and I have been a big fan of it ever since.

I've already mentioned Highland Resort allows nudity around pool and also at the jacuzzi. It is sometimes hard to book a room/cabin at either so make up you mind soon. Last year, I greatly enjoyed the Grape To Glass (Russian River Winegrowers Annual Festival). You can take part in three days of fine wine, food, music, art and recreation in the vineyards and neighborhoods of the Russian River Valley:
Unique In Depth Tours • Virtual Photo Contest • Live Concert • Cycling & Kayaking • Hog in The Fog BBQ • Live & Silent Auctions • Sparkling Brunch

I didn't attend all the events at Grape to Glass last year, but the private vintner tours and wine-tasting were very nice, especially if you get to meet the winemaker (and all the staff who help grow it). The Saturday massive wine-tasting party and barbeque, called Hog in The Fog BBQ, was quite nice as well.

As far as I know, the only clothing-optional resorts are Highland Resort and The Woods.

Highlands Resort
Nudity is allowed at the pool and and in the hot tub.

The Woods The Woods resort allows nudity around and in the pool.
There are other places listed here:

Fife's has changed hands, now known as Fern Grove Cottages is a gay-friendly resort. It seems the new owners wanted it to be a 'classy' place so they put an end to the camping (I used to try to be nude whenever possible), and also to the cruising (anonymous outdoor sex) that used to go on on its grounds. Too bad! However, things like that have a way of restarting - but I cannot vouch for that.

RRR (Russian River Resort) is another popular gay accommodation right in Guerneville. RRR used to allow nudity in its enclosed hot tub area, but not at their pool, and it may still do so. You can probably still buy a day-pass to get in and use the pool.
RRR was remodeled in 2006 after the flood. They have a new saline pool, hot tub, poolside bar/BBQ, indoor bar and piano bar. The resort also has the wonderful Triple R Bar & Grill restaurant. We are a host resort for many wonderful annual events as well as providing live weekly entertainment.
See their website at:

There is also a nude beach (of sorts) out on the river, but I have never been able to get anyone to explain exactly how to get to it, so I have never been there myself. It's not close to town evidently and takes a good while to walk (or drive). Horseback riding in the redwood forest (nearby) and winery (wine-tasting) visits, plus floating down the Russian River make for a great week (or weekend of fun).

Armstrong Woods Trail Rides
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Sometime there are events at the gay bars that bring in more people, but it was mostly just a few people whenever I was there in the off weekend.

There is a old theater in downtown Guerneville that hosts a repetoire of classic and kooky favorities plays and shows, such as The Rocky Horror Show, (or at least it had been doing so.) There are also a couple of jazz and rock music festivals and other events, like a airshow that happen throughout the year.
For those who enjoy camping, you can camp out at Highland Resort, or at Johnson's a RV and tent campground riverside right in town.

I recommend driving back from Guerneville to San Francisco via the Sonoma Coast (at least part of the way) and stopping along the road at Bodega Bay, which was a location of the Hitchcock film, The Birds. However, it's pristine coastline views are gorgeous (when the fog has lifted). That fog is what flows up the Russian River and adds to the makeup of flavors in the Russian River pinot noir grapes.
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