Words of wisdom from Fay Weldon, one of Britain's best-known feminists. It's advice for gals who love guys, and most guys of any persuasion will nod both heads in enthusiastic agreement:

"A few words on porn. They will not be enough, I know, to convince some women that for a husband or lover to watch porn is not a matter for shock-horror.

But look at it like this: In males, the instinct for love and the need for sexual gratification overlap, but do not necessarily coincide.

If you are lucky, the needs coincide in acts of domestic love; if you are not, his head turns automatically after girls in the street or he goes to the porn sites on the computer.

He is not to be blamed. Nor does it affect his relationship with you. Love is satisfied, sex isn’t quite. Porn is sex in theory, not in practice. It just helps a man get through the day. Just accept that men are different."

You said it, sister! Ah, men!

A bisexual woman I used to know once said, "When stressed, men run toward sex, women run away from it." I guess she would know :)