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Parental Sabatoge?

   Mon, April 28, 2008 - 10:39 PM
Today I came home from my belly q class (bellydance burlesque) and my parents had the day off of work, so they were both home (usually my father works nights) and gathered around the tv eating from their favorite burger joint (Sliders)- used to be mine too, but i quit eating that shit. now, i've already told my parents about my new, healthier eating habits, and my goals to lose the weight. after getting my gym clothes off my mom comes in and says...
"there's a burger in there for you too, yanno. with onion rings."
and i put my head down and said "mooooom!" with a great big sigh...
"WELL then DON'T EAT IT!"- she walks away...

WHAT THE FUCK IS SHE TRYING TO DO TO ME?! That was seriously not supportive. she could have at LEAST got a chicken sandwich for me or something... some kind of healthier choice! so i debated... i debated and debated... to eat the burger- to not eat the burger... calculated the calories.... called my boyfriend who is like the ONLY one i can come to about this... he was just like... "yeah, that was really fucked up... what is she trying to do?"

now, my mom isn't like a mean person or anything... but maybe she's testing me? maybe she's jealous? i dunno...

but i didn't eat it. i made my usual dinner (salad), with a healthy dessert (strawberries), because i needed to pat myself on the back for resisting my favorite burger ever... ever... ever....

I thanked her later for the meal, but told her i'm trying really hard not to eat like that anymore. i told her i'd leave it for my father's lunch tomorrow, and that if she feels the need to get me anything anymore, that it PLEASE at least be a healthier choice- chicken is cool, salads are cool...

but SERIOUSLY... WHAT THE FUCK...



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Mon, April 28, 2008 - 11:35 PM
You got through your first hurdle successfully!
Mon, April 28, 2008 - 11:59 PM
Good for you! Many times our families don't understand how important it is to us to change our eating habits, they don't have a problem with eating the same old way so why should you right? I'm sure your mother meant well and wasn't trying to test you or sabotage you, she just wanted to get you something that she knew was your favorite to make you happy. You did the right thing though by talking to her later, thanking and explaining to her what you're trying to do, eventually they'll see you're serious about making these changes in your life and be supportive but for right now their support may be pretty scarce, just remember that every day is progress towards your goal of getting healthier.
Tue, April 29, 2008 - 9:08 AM
ya, I would have been really upset too! what a terrible situation to have put you in, especially trying to make you feel bad for not wanting to eat it! it's hard to know what her motivation really was, but it was wholly un-supportive of your efforts. You should feel really proud of yourself for not just giving in and eating it.
Tue, April 29, 2008 - 10:23 AM
way to go!!! it's harder to resist what's in front of us but you did it, it's great that you have a support in your boyfriend.
Tue, April 29, 2008 - 1:35 PM
Mom wasn't thinking
And she blew it. But remember Mom's are human too and fuck up like the rest of us. (Note: I am a Mom and fuck up all the time with my son)
You did the right thing even though she didn't "get it". You Thanked her for getting you dinner and gave it to your Dad for lunch and had your healthier choice and asked her to get you healthier stuff the next time she feels the need to get you dinner from that place.

You should be super proud of yourself, you handled it wonderfully!

*hugs*

Fri, May 2, 2008 - 4:51 AM
Congratulations on your resolve and persistence! ^,...,^

Keep it up! Woo!