Male

52

I have definite geeky tendencies, a dry and reactive sense of humor, a conscience that sometimes limits me a bit more than I would like, a solid grasp of my own worth and moral values, and I try to laugh at my tendency to pontificate too much. I'm overeducated by profession, an amateur student of spiders and grasses, have worked in a research-related field, am starting my own business, successful enough but more focused on my family than on my career, and intentionally not pursuing the fast track. I'm 51, 6', blue eyes, smooth skinned, carrying too much extra weight but active and reasonably fit, enjoy gardening, and construction on the eternal remodel project on our home, and I like to think my hair isn't quite as gray as it actually is.

I'm happy and busy with my wife and the married couple we include in our lives in a poly tetrad relationship, and the wife of the other couple who is in D/s service to me. I don't see how I could fit another such deep committed heart relationship into my life, and I'm not looking for one, but if something magical and extraordinary and open enough to have room both for itself and for what I already have came along and banged me over the head, I'd certainly have to pay attention. I'm top-identified, Dom with the right person, emotionally straight, kinky bi, switch, poly, sometimes nasty, pain-oriented, sadomasochist. People have told me they are startled that I play so hard, for someone who seems so nice. And I also love walks in the hills, and watching the moon rise - who doesn't?

I am interested in actual real live, in-person, experiential, face-to-(ahem)-face meetings, with conversations leading toward establishing connection and relationship, for sharing everything from good bay area hikes, home garden and family ideas, good scotch, ideas and experiences of varieties of kink, or play. I'm open to chat, discussion, exploring ideas, learning from others, and finding ways to contribute to and enter like-minded communities.