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The Seattle scene murders

   Mon, April 3, 2006 - 2:22 PM
I'm sure you all heard about the sensless tragic events that occurred in Seattle a couple weeks ago. This one hit way too close to home. I was just there a little over a month ago, performing and entertaining these people. One of the murder victims provided the 12 channel mixing board for Atmos to use. The shooting occured at the home of the sound man for the stage I played on at Kinetic. I just met these people. And now they're gone.

The Seattle scene is lovely - really cool, kind, friendly, chill people. This kind of sensless evil was so unnecessary. I don't know what to say or how to react, or even how to heal myself or others affected by it. Time will heal. I'm afraid it's gonna take a long time for the people in the dance music scene of Seattle more time than most. My prayers, love and healing energies go out to you all.

Just makes one think about how everything we do has some element of risk. Be more cautious of welcoming outsiders; rather, people you don't know really well, or that can be vouched for by someone you know and trust. I have been hurt (emotionally, financially or by theft or vandalism in my own home) numerous times for being kind and giving to the wrong people. I keep learning to be more careful and selective. And I never stop sharing lovingkindness. Of course, what happened in Seattle is the most extreme and rare case imaginable. You extend your loving kindness and hospitality to a "lost, lonely soul", with purely good intent - to make them feel welcome, to give them a sense of friendship, that someone cares about thier happiness, to help them feel included. Then you and your friends get mowed down for it. Makes no sense.

If there is any "take away" from this tragedy, it is to be more careful about who you invite to your home. Only let people you know and trust know where you live, especially after a party. Drugs and alcohol do change people - sometimes they have no control over thier judgement.

Never stop being kind and giving, but practice discernment. Err on the side of caution, and have no guilt about your decision. Setting boundaries for your own safety is imperative. People often lose sense of boundaries when they are high. Some are just plain ol' disrespectful. It's a wonderful gift to offer hospitality and sanctuary to weary partiers until they are okay enough to get home. Don't ever stop that. Just practice being more selective, is all I am trying to say.

This could have happened here in L.A. Could have happened anywhere. Keep a watchful eye out for yourself, your stuff and your friends wherever you are. Safety in numbers. Don't be paranoid, but don't let your guard down either.

My very deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathies to the families, friends and loved ones of the victims in Seattle.

My apologies for the delay in responding. It took a while for me to do my own processing and sorting out what happened, and fomulating my thoughts into words.

I wish everyone happiness and wellness in this lifetime.



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Mon, April 3, 2006 - 2:59 PM
Wise words, Wendy. Thank you for sharing. :)
Mon, April 3, 2006 - 6:34 PM
what KIND of drugs was the shooter on?? Just for statistical perposes
Mon, April 3, 2006 - 7:39 PM
> What kind of drugs was the shooter on?

It takes two weeks for the medical examiner's office to get tox screen results back, even in high-pro cases, sometimes.

My guess? A little pot; a little meth; a whole lot of really bad innate natural brain chemistry.
I feel bad for that dude's twin brother. He must feel like a whole pile of shit.
Unsu...
 
Mon, April 3, 2006 - 9:47 PM
Thank you !!!
Wendy! I really, really got something out of this. Thanks for the wise words. I am very sorry your friends are gone in the bloom of their years.....Remember to live 110% every day for them and always keep your gaurd up. If you must "play" with substances....make sure you are in a positve headspace and surrounded by loved ones. I just find the older I get my extremities are few and far between. Everyone should know their core and work only within the limits that they can function in. Hang in there! Hope to see you soon...I really enjoyed you at x-mas.
Wed, April 5, 2006 - 11:47 AM
Thank you.

When Mary told me, I was shocked, but sadly, not surprised.
I am feeling so sad for all the loss, even though I was not a part of it.

The ripples go out wide and far.

I know how magical that trip was for you, up North.
I'm sorry.

Thank you for sharing.
Better yet, for putting words to things on my mind, but not able to convey.

I often get cursed for being "too careful" and accused of being the "buzzkill" for expressing a need for a screening process when having social interactions with others when drugs are involved.
Or even when we are all just drinking too much wine.

People have issues. Most are left undeclared and untreated.
Drugs and drink bring out the changes.
A lot of those people are insanely desperate for a place to go and be "taken care of".
Parties are a great way to start networks of friendship and find compassion.

But who goes home with you should be special.

It is never the host or the friends that cause the party to end.
It usually is a total stranger, looking for something else, that shows up in a state of mind.
"That guy" is usually the one that brings it all to an end.

But sadly, nobody remembers how he got there.

We have all played good cop/bad cop to the ones that go off and loose there minds.
That will never change for me. Being willing to help and pull from personal experience to do so.
But, I do find myself ,sadly, less interested in being the first to show up.
Or even be a the door to decide which one is gonna be trouble.

I will be thinking good thoughts for all involved.

Be a lert. The world needs mor lerts!